Claire Khaw on dating, romance, seduction and love

First one is *pulled*, then one *falls* in love. That first pull is the initial fluttering of the heart leading one God knows where ...

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

A sign of modern love: a sudden anxiety over one's social media postings?

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Often, one is more in love with the idea of being in love than the love object itself.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

The difference between being in love and being infatuated is the difference between love reciprocated and love unreciprocated.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

One of the advantages of getting older is the ability to plan the seduction with greater objectivity and patience, mindful of past errors.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

A dilemma of love: the desire to be protective of the love object and the imperative to make the love object vulnerable to seduction.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Is it possible to be seductive to someone on Twitter without ever once tweeting at them directly? Only if you already a celebrity, I suppose

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Even if I fail to be sufficiently seductive to the love object, the attempt should have the effect of improving the quality of my tweets.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

When is the best part of an affair? When desire becomes hope? When hope becomes expectation? When expectation is fulfilled? And then it ends

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Planning a seduction is in many ways like planning a political campaign and should be executed with the same objectivity and restraint.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

But what if the love object refuses to engage? With maturity comes the virtue of patience and greater creativity. https://t.co/nN5R0qwwA7

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

The love object is not a court of law and is often immune to compelling logic. "I don't want to" is its weapon that must always be respected

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

What's your opinion about same gender relationships? — They are obviously capable of being enjoyed by their partic… https://t.co/tQvQxdxhiu

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

https://t.co/zSDFmPHCJi Is it far-fetched to describe Bach's French Suites as romantic? Have been playing this every day since #inauguration

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Perhaps the best thing about being in love is the belief that the love object is a good person and that one is by extension also good.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Or is it planning activities one might enjoy with the love object until reality and the love object's personal tastes intervene? https://t.co/u3r14xjp4C

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

What’s the best place in your city for a romantic dinne… — My place and yours tarted up for a romantic evening whe… https://t.co/2HOP9HZeUJ

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Vulgarity is probably the quality most poisonous to romance.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Should the love object be conscious of the pursuer's objective? Probably not if the relationship is in any way improper or even forbidden.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Is it possible to be aroused by someone's sexual interest in us, even if we are not ourselves actually attracted to them?

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Women have suffered themselves to be objects of romantic pursuit out of curiosity even when they do not reciprocate the pursuer's feelings.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

"Maybe, baby, if you show me a good time, since I don't find you utterly repulsive." https://t.co/e18Ky46iPL

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

In legal terms this would be called invitations to treat and requests for information and statements of intention. https://t.co/VZXcxAu6xZ

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

I think I am quite good at showing people a good time, on the whole. A man once complained after a date that I was too stimulating. https://t.co/VZXcxAu6xZ

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

It was only a lunch date and I was hardly dancing on the table. I remembered to be on what I thought was my best behaviour. https://t.co/4V340unw2K

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

I must accept it is impossible to seduce someone who won't even go on a date with me after being frightened off by my online persona.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Such are the sacrifices I make for Western civilisation, civic nationalism and white people - the ungrateful wretches! https://t.co/1GRNfFhkHC

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

If I am not honoured in my lifetime for saving Western civilisation, will I be honoured posthumously, or not at all? https://t.co/es3YgZbFyC

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

It is difficult to decide what relationships between adults are in fact improper when incest is now legalised in some European countries. https://t.co/0rc8TWVz2F

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

I fear the love object has been warned off me by my many detractors who wish me ill. People are easily frightened. https://t.co/es3YgZbFyC

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

This poll does not bode well for success with my love object. That's why I can't get a date however normal and nice I try to seem. https://t.co/B89IbnelYK

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

There is no point trying to be nice and normal now just to get a date with love object. It is far far far too late.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Nationalist says I am only getting the attention I get cos I am a female and a foreigner. To complete the picture I should be disabled.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Instead of being disabled, it would be more fun if I came out, like Milo. So now may be the time to find myself a girlfriend. https://t.co/2BeUVrZcvW

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

The trouble is that it is difficult to meet women through nationalist politics cos there are just fewer women in this group. https://t.co/81TYJlriLt

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

I have no interest in being the romantic partner of a Green or Red woman, but perhaps a Blue if she is sufficiently intellectually rigorous. https://t.co/81TYJlriLt

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

In America, the colour code for political parties is the reverse of Britain's. https://t.co/m5ZkXQXRcY

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

My proposed hypothetical girlfriend must be a Trump supporter. This is the most non-negotiable of all my non-negotiables. https://t.co/m5ZkXQXRcY

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Ideally, she should be able to introduce me to Steve Bannon, but what about her personal qualities? https://t.co/MXU0mOQaiF

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

My taste in women are quite conventional to alpha males, you may be disappointed to learn: attractive, clever, trustworthy and good company. https://t.co/P6bSr2MgkH

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

What a silly thing to say. I have just described the ideal woman, have I not? https://t.co/tmRxNKw59u

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

The ideal man is all those things I have described in the ideal woman, but a good provider too. https://t.co/oXydpbG5p9

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

I think I have just demonstrated exactly why it is harder to be a man than a woman. https://t.co/jcTPKl8StJ

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

Now my Facebook friends and Twitter followers are wondering if I could be in love with them. Perhaps honey traps will be set up for me ...

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

And if honey traps were set up for me everywhere, should I, knowing them for what they are, accidentally on purpose fall into them?

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 11, 2017

I am bemused by the expressions of rage and jealousy that were generated as a result of my showing a more romantic side to my nature.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

Initially, the name of the Love Object is sacred, secret and only utterable in very limited circumstances.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

While romantic love is inextricably mixed with desire, to be truly romantic it must also be an affair of the heart and the mind.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

The idea of romance came from the chivalric age of knights who presumably bore the burdens of battles more bravely because of the idea of it

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

The cause of the feelings of romance is the love object, but quite often the Love Object had no desire to be the Love Object.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

Poets and artists often seek that "in love" feeling in the hope of improving their work, and perhaps I do the same, consciously or not.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

When I posed for those gun and flag photos, I had given up on the idea of romance altogether, but life is full of surprises.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

Fear not, I already know not to send Love Object a Valentine Card, who wd wonder nervously how I got the address. If I do I must NOT sign it

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

I will always remember Jan/Feb 2017 as the 4 weeks of Trump's inauguration, of Bach's French Suites, when I felt strange romantic longings.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

@ntfem how're things going with the Love Object, by the way?

— Elliott Wess (@nnnfdd) February 12, 2017

@nnnfdd I don't expect anything to be going on. You did not notice the elegiac nature of the tweets concerning the Love Object, clearly.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 12, 2017

I must be in a bad way, listening to country and western now. Sammy Kershaw.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

When you're in love, every day is St Valentine's Day ....

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

I have just consulted the horoscopes of myself and the Love Object. It bodes well.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

The Love Object's name like an incantation or mantra, not to be said out loud for fear of jinxing it, but to echo in the chambers of my mind

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

I wonder if the Love Object feels a trembling of the ether surrounding it, composed of the emanations of my emotions ...

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

Something about you made me stop and think, smile and beam. Next time I came across you was the same. It would be nice to be your Valentine!

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

The tweet below was 140 characters exactly, which I always think is auspicious. I am however a little unclear about the rules of scansion. https://t.co/Sql3ZCEjun

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

http://www.poetryarchive.org/glossary/scansion

Thank God for there is Twitter to dissipate the focus of my affection, or the Love Object would find my attentions oppressive and obsessive. https://t.co/U6po31wnHB

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017

Followers and Facebook friends increasingly enraged by my Love Object tweets. They must be jealous. Normal service resumes 15 February 2017.

— Claire Khaw (@ntfem) February 13, 2017